Coaching is like a magic mirror,

reflecting what you are thinking, feeling and saying about everything in life.

By working together, you’ll understand your own mirror and change it to become limitless.” 

― Sultan Alsasi

(www.goodreads.com)

Is Coaching for me?

When you begin to contemplate the need or value of talking to a coach you can take the following steps.

Step 1:      Consider these questions.

 

·        Are you a motivated thirty-something eager to chart out your career path?

·        Are you contemplating to leave your current position to go solo (self-employed)?

·        Are you self-employed and contemplating entering (or returning) to a corporate environment?

·        Are you nearing the so-called middle age and are looking for something new?

·        Are you nearing retirement and are uncertain about your life after retirement?

·        Are you at a crucial transition on your life’s journey?

 

If you have answered yes to any of these questions, life coaching may be of value to you.

 

Step 2:       Contact a few other coaches and me. Discuss your need with us and gauge the chemistry between you and your potential coach. It is important that you and the coach are both comfortable to work with one another. After the first meeting, I will give you a a readiness self-assessment questionaire to help you to make a final decision. During this first meeting, I will introduce you to what coaching is, my approach to coaching and clarify any questions you may have regarding coaching, fees, times and ways to meet. This chemistry session is free.

Step 3:      Make your decision and contact me. I will now give you a more comprehensive questionaire that will help me to understand your world and needs. I will also provide you with a personal information sheet and the Memorandum of Understanding. After I received these documents with the self-assessment questionaire, I will contact you for our first appointment.

Step 4:      The first session is a “history” session, and the aim is to draw up the route map for the coaching journey.

Step 5:      After the session, I will invoice you, and you have to pay this invoice before the next session.

Step 6:      From here on you must commit yourself to do what you have identified as tasks from the previous session, do the reading or homework prescribed by me. It will also be necessary to spend time to think about the upcoming session and what you want to work on during that session.

Still unsure?      Send me an e-mail, and I will contact you. 

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Is mediation for us?

When you begin to contemplate divorce or the need or value of talking to a trained mediation you can take the following steps.

Step 1:      Commit yourself to a process of counselling.

Step 2:      Consider the consequences of a divorce or unresolved conflict. Divorce is seldom the best solution and resolving the conflict will benefit both of you, the children and frankly all your family members and friends. Their estimate of you and your partner will be higher and their commitment to your happiness much more sincere.

Step 3:      If you are still sure that you want to go ahead with the divorce, consider these questions

 

·        Do you want to protect the children? And against what?

·        Do you want to leave your ex in a

·        Are you prepared to change your life-style to accommodate the interest of the children and your ex?

·        Are you prepared to pay the fees of an attorney and the hassle of a court appearance, or would you prefer a cheaper, cleaner and much quicker process with less conflict?

·        Are your ex prepared to go the road of mediation rather than the more customary road of involving attorneys?

 

 

Step 4:       Contact a few other mediators and me. Discuss your need with us and gauge the chemistry between you and your potential mediator. It is important that the mediator and you are both comfortable to work with one another. During this first meeting, I will introduce you to what mediation is, my approach to mediation and clarify any questions you may have regarding mediation, fees, times and ways to meet. This chemistry session is free.

Step 5:      Make your decision and contact me. I will now give you a more comprehensive questionaire that will help me to understand your world and needs. I will also provide you with a personal information sheet and the Memorandum of Understanding. After I received these documents with the self-assessment questionaire, I will contact your partner and repeat steps 4 and 5 with him/her.

Step 6:      When both of you agree to a process of mediation I will meet with both of you separately for a “history” session. This session aims to deal with your feelings, to identify the issues you wish to discuss and to prepare you for the first joint meeting.

Step 7:      After these sessions, I will begin to invoice you. You have to pay this invoice before the next session.

Step 8:      Only now we will have a joint session during which you and your partner discuss all the issues identified. My task is to make sure that the process is fair to the children and both of you. I will also provide you with the information you need. Experience show that when the two parties are committed the process one of two sessions should suffice to resolve all the issues

Step 9:      When the divorce settlement is drawn up both of you have an opportunity to show it to your legal representatives. If both of you are satisfied with the outcome, you take it to the clerk of the court who will submit it to the court processes and determine a date for the divorce procedure.

Still unsure?      Send me an e-mail, and I will contact you.