Are you living or working in an environment of continuous conflict? Do you merely want to mediate or manage conflict, or do you want to use the opportunity to become a stronger person?
When we mediate conflict, we merely sort matters out. When we manage conflict, we sort things out and re-arrange the furniture in the room. When we mine conflict, we see it as a resource and delve deeper to understand how conflict affects us and how our responses contribute to the conflict.
Conflict coaching facilitates this mining process. Through conflict coaching, we journey together to discover what is the real source of conflict. Then we begin to prepare for those moments when our own needs and that of other team members are no longer aligned.
Conflict coaching can help you to understand the nature of the conflict, the origin of bias, and to discover how and why they respond to conflict in the way they do. It also helps them to identify appropriate bases for a successful resolution of conflict.
Conflict coaching happens best when it is a mixed process of teamwork and individual discovery. After WW2 therapists discovered that the dynamics of a group setting has a strong influence on the individual members. However, the response of the individual members determines the measure of the group’s impact and the role an individual plays in the group.
Transitional coaching is coaching for positive change towards a positive future.
Let me share my story: I first began to think about transitional coaching when I realised that I approach a new phase in my career, my life and my relationships. Previously I worked as a minister in a suburban congregation for 28 years. That phase would come to an end in 2017. At the end of 2016, I realised that I have to prepare for the moment of change before the new future dawns upon me. I identified fear of being without salary, fear of failing, and fear of making the wrong decisions as the things I need to talk through with someone. I spoke to a coach. Talking to her allowed me to deal with my fears and self-doubt, and to plan the passage to a world unknown to me.
As a coach I journey with my clients through some of the essential transitions and passages in life. These include changes from salaried employment to entrepreneurship (as it happened to me), from one job to another, from work to retirement, from being single to entering a relationship or marriage, from being in a partnership to be alone after divorce or when your partner passed away.
I believe everyone is already living a good story and by exploring this narrative, we release the resources needed for the transition.