“It is the client who knows what hurts,

what directions to go, what problems are crucial,what experiences have been deeply buried.”

― Carl Rogers  

 Life Coaching

The life coach partners with his client to imagine a new and inspiring future. The life coach then guides us to enter the journey of transition with a clear plan of how to discover this future. Life coaching is a client-driven and goal orientated process. Together with the coach the client explores his/her journey, formulates what success means for him/her, identifies goals and objectives for success, and develops the habits and skills to achieve these objectives.

While coaching is forward-looking, it also recognises that many of the obstacles to our goal achievement result from past experiences. While clients explore the future they imagine for themselves and those dynamics that could hinder making that future reality, the coach follows the agenda and the pace of the client.

Typically, we will meet between eight and twelve times for a one-hour session. During these sessions, we engage in a structured discussion about the goals of the client. These goals need not be long-term goals but can be concrete short-term goals. Each session will have its theme and agree upon criteria to ensure the achievement of the goal.

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Conflict Coaching

Are you living or working in an environment of continuous conflict? Do you merely want to mediate or manage conflict, or do you want to use the opportunity to become a stronger person?

When we mediate conflict, we merely sort matters out. When we manage conflict, we sort things out and re-arrange the furniture in the room. When we mine conflict, we see it as a resource and delve deeper to understand how conflict affects us and how our responses contribute to the conflict.

Conflict coaching facilitates this mining process. Through conflict coaching, we journey together to discover what is the real source of conflict. Then we begin to prepare for those moments when our own needs and that of other team members are no longer aligned.

Conflict coaching can help you to understand the nature of the conflict, the origin of bias, and to discover how and why they respond to conflict in the way they do. It also helps them to identify appropriate bases for a successful resolution of conflict.

 

Conflict coaching happens best when it is a mixed process of teamwork and individual discovery. After WW2 therapists discovered that the dynamics of a group setting has a strong influence on the individual members. However, the response of the individual members determines the measure of the group’s impact and the role an individual plays in the group.

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 Transitional Coaching

Transitional coaching is coaching for positive change towards a positive future.

 

Let me share my story: I first began to think about transitional coaching when I realised that I approach a new phase in my career, my life and my relationships. Previously I worked as a minister in a suburban congregation for 28 years. That phase would come to an end in 2017. At the end of 2016, I realised that I have to prepare for the moment of change before the new future dawns upon me. I identified fear of being without salary, fear of failing, and fear of making the wrong decisions as the things I need to talk through with someone. I spoke to a coach. Talking to her allowed me to deal with my fears and self-doubt, and to plan the passage to a world unknown to me.

As a coach I journey with my clients through some of the essential transitions and passages in life. These include changes from salaried employment to entrepreneurship (as it happened to me), from one job to another, from work to retirement, from being single to entering a relationship or marriage, from being in a partnership to be alone after divorce or when your partner passed away.

I believe everyone is already living a good story and by exploring this narrative, we release the resources needed for the transition. 

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